dinsdag 22 maart 2011

Forgetting - missing the train

Let's say you are near a railway station, where you have to take the train to get somewhere. You are doing multiple things and are distracted and time after time you miss the train for some reason.
This would show you that you are allowing distractions to divert you from your "route". That you are no longer directing yourself, but being directed and in that way "missing the train". We can easily get lost in distractions in our everyday life. So pinpoint your distraction, that divert your attention away from being here, or your stability.

For example:
Pretty images in magazines. May create either fantasies in your head, or desires, maybe even self-loathing and fear. Maybe a whole plan on how to look that way. It is your mind, which you use to judge yourself for not looking a certain way, or when you are a male, to go into sexual desires and projections of sexual intercourse.
It is not real, and it drags us away from what is here. It is also often used for people to ignore the reality of this world, the abuse, the inequality, and pre-occupy them with superficial things that trigger the emotions.
It is not real. It is only real for you when you allow it to influence you. Ask yourself why you desire to look that way, or why  you desire to be with such a lady. Why do you judge such a picture as better then your picture. Realize the cultural bias within it, and how different cultures have different beauty standards.
It does not serve you to judge yourself on your image - accept your human body and take care of it. Stop the judgment because it does you only harm.
Also this system is designed to distract people from the real truth. How the system allows and creates abuse and exploitation. (for info check out http://www.theatomdecides.blogspot.com/ ) . It keeps people busy to consume and work, to keep the system making profit and keep people from being to busy to really realize wtf is going on.

So look at what is distracting you in your life. What draws your attention, and if you allow yourself to follow the pop up thoughts and fantasies in your mind.
This can also apply to dreaming that you are going somewhere but you realize you forgot something.
Ask yourself what is it that you are forgetting and how do you experience yourself when realizing you forgot it? Does it trigger emotions within you? what does it do? For any help you can leave a comment and I will assist with the explanation.
This can also be part of the "distraction" point, because you may have been distracted with other things and therefore forgot something.
Very often dreaming about forgetting things is simply a sign that we need to slow down and start paying more attention to things.   It’s possible that you recently forgot something or almost forgot something and the frustration of that incident carried over into your dream.
Stop the frustration or the irritation or disappointment. See why it is triggered, what are the thoughts in your mind, the memories etc... that bring it out. Write it down, Forgive yourself and let go. If you go into emotional turmoil, stop the thoughts and breath slowly and aware.
Video on living self forgiveness:
Forgetting things isn’t a sign of losing your memory or even of getting old – most of the time it’s simply a sign that you’re too busy or that you aren’t paying as much attention. People of all ages forget, also small children. It is the motions and reactions that we have to deal with. Or the emotions and thoughts that has triggered it in the first place.  It may be part of a lazy habit we get in, for example at home. Or going on auto-pilot instead of being here in the moment, present, without "losing yourself" in your head.
If you are for example forgetting to feed your beloved pet
This shows you your worry that you are neglecting something or someone that you care about. Simply ask yourself if it is true or not. Look in your life, and if you are doing this for real. If so, write down the reasons and correct yourself.
If not, let go of the fear and guilt, write down for yourself why you think this and all the thoughts and memories that come up inside your mind - so that you can see the construct of it for yourself and can stop it.
Maybe you are also very busy and have a fear inside you that you will forget important things.
If you have a busy life, I suggest to make a list about the things that you definitely need to do in a day or a week, and put it on a spot where you see it often. So that way, no matter how busy you are, you can make sure what has to be done is done. Without getting stressed over it. use it as a practical help.

donderdag 17 maart 2011

Dying or death in a dream

When you dream of someone you love dying
This can be your pet, mother, child etc...The dream is presenting your fear of losing your companions with which you share unique intimacy.
In the dream you are facing your fear of loss, the fear of loosing what you experience when you have them/him/her in your life. See where this affects your everyday life, does it pre-occupy your thoughts? What are you doing based on fear of loosing someone?

Often people will compromise themselves, for the sake of keeping someone they love close to them. This may be unsupportive for the being itself and the other. A mom that keeps pampering her son, giving him what he wants, doing everything he asks and does not want to do himself ... is keeping the son within a position where he will not take direction over himself and his own life. He will learn to use others to do things for him, and not be responsible for who he is and what he has to do.

suggest self forgiveness to diffuse the construct and consider where a want or need exist .
(Self forgiveness - Why do Self forgiveness)

Dreaming of dying
What dreams reveal is that which you've suppressed yet it exists within you. If there are still reactions in your dreams to death it implies that you haven't actually dealt with such Fear and consider it as non/existent which I suggest you look at because it is one of the inherent fears in every human being, denying it is part of suppressing it.

Take a look at the death of yourself within the dream. What were you thinking, how did you feel? It can be an outflow of your fear of dying, or a part of yourself dying. Losing the definition of who you are in your current situation. Reveal your fears to yourself so that you may see where it comes from/what is behind them. Even if you are not consciously aware of such a fear - when you do fear it within your dream for example, it means that the fear of death is within you on a subconscious level.

Dying in a dream can also be a symbol for ending a certain path, a certain lifestyle, a certain personality which kept you "trapped". It can be a form of letting go.

When you are dreaming of desiring to die, or being happy that you are doing to die - this may indicate depression. It may as well be part of an escape from a dangerous situation.
For example when you dream about being warned for a certain nuclear explosion which will kill you slowly and painfull - and in your dream you are trying to look for a gun to kill yourself so you dont have to undergo the painfull death predicted in the dream.

What this may show you is the fear of pain, fear of suffering. As well as believing others, following conspiracies or assumptions. Look within your life where you will do what is harmfull for yourself, or others, based on what anothers has told you and which you have accepted as true without certainty. Because the warning could as well be false - but in the dream you have decided to follow it and act upon it, even decided to kill yourself.

We often do this in our lives, by acting on a survival instinct programmed within us, because it "has been told". We loose all self-direction and act in ways that are not best for ourselves or others. It can cause us to have harmfull thoughts, or compromising thoughts toward ourselves and others. Like for example when you think someone is gossiping about you, and you think about it a lot and what they may say and how you can respond to it etc... It will control you, and show you that you care more about believes in your mind then about the reality. And that you are using ohers opinions to go into a certain experience - instead of realising that others judgements are not personal, they are always about the person judging. Because it should not change you wether a person gossips about you or not - unless you see their gossip as being of some kind of worth. When you allow it to have power over you - you give it strenght and dominance. If you dont, then you remain your own strenght - where you do not let another define who you are.

A warning with this, is to not go into the believe that who you currently are is good and you should remain that way. Every one of us is programmed in a specific way depending on our environment and the people we have been raised with, and various other influences such as for example school and media. Thus it is important to not let judgement and gossip decide who we are - but look at ourselves, in self honesty, and realise who we are for real. Even when the gossipers are right, it does not approve of their gossip, because gossip serves no purpose but to devide and talk shit. So it is important to realise who you are for yourself, to investigate yourself and start to direct yourself in your life. You can then find out your own programming, and what the outflows of it is. Not as a reaction to gossip, but as a responds to self-realisation.
Because some people will go into resistance and denial because of gossip - this is also what can control you. Because then you also give gossipers control over who you are, by going into an opposit reaction of denial and stubborness.
The point is thus to not react to the gossip, breath and let it go. And unconditionally for yourself look at who you are.

in short:- going into resistance and stubborness because of gossipers, saying "I am fine just the way I am", without being self-honest.
- thinking gossipers are right and feeling sorry for self.

Are both reactions that give the gossip power over you.

A cool documents about Self-honesty:

woensdag 16 maart 2011

Being chased or chasing

When you are dreaming about being chased, it can mean various things.

It can be Fears of the past chasing you – For example if you are dreaming about animals chasing you: the animals represents your fears from the past still chasing you within yourself from which you are attempting to run away from – Then you have to look within your dream if you are seeing familiar persons or events. When you are dreaming about a past house / environment / mother / grandmother etc... Look at yourself in relation to those things. Is there something or someone you have been running away from, or feeling afraid off/seeing as a threat?
Or is someone from the past, or memories you have about them or it, chasing you still today?  What or who re you allowing to chase you?

So, more specifically: Still memories of the past within you related to fear, existing inside you, from which you are trying to run away from inside yourself, through suppressing them, because they still influence/define ‘who you are’.
Suggestion: Have a look at what occurrences of your past still influence you here as you experience you here  . Write it down for yourself, on paper or on a pc document so you can lay it out for yourself. To see all the patterns and memories or connections that you can make for yourself.

The dream also assisted you to realise for you – not to fear your past, but to face it and let it go unconditionally.
At the moment - I'd say your mind's got 'jurisdiction' over you - deciding for you whether you're ready or not - and, within my experience with the mind - the mind has infinite variations of excuses as reasons and justifications to just not be ready. Hell - you may even wait for yourself for the remainder of your life - until you realise: Oh - shit - I decide for me when I am ready, and I must move me to apply me - the mind's sure as hell not going to do it for me.
A slave of the mind - waiting for yourself to be ready...
Being chased can also be a secret desire, a desire of being chased after, being "hunted", or being a victim. Check your feelings within the dream. Are you enjoying it or are you fearing it?

So being chased can come from:-Fear of an experience from the past, a person from the past, an object or being that you fear in the present, -allowing something to follow you and determin who you are
-A manifesting desire

Chasing another

Ask yourself what are you running after? What is it that you want to achieve and get as fast as possible?
Do you experience something or someone to be "out of reach" ?

It can indicate that you are trying to catch up with something you believe is bigger/faster then yourself. It can be part of the ego of wanting to win aswell. It can be towards a specific person that you feel is going faster then you or is leaving you behind. This can be connected to the fear of loss.

Fear of loss comes from accepting yourself to not accept yourself unconditionally - but basing your self-experience on what another makes you feel. Where you require the other to "fulfill" you , and when the other is going, you experience fear or depression for example. Will you allow yourself to be a slave to the fear of loosing something or someone? Ask yourself why are you fearing it, does it contribute to your life or that of another?
If someone abandons you, there is nothing you can do about it - the only thing you have control over is yourself and who you are within the moment. To make a stand and not be a subject to emotions that come out of the fear of loss. Because it would not serve you and will only make you experience pain.
If you are comfortable with who you are, and accept yourself, then you will not loose yourself when another leaves you.

Fear of loss can be towards objects or people. It can even be towards memories.
So always look at who or what you are dreaming about, and connect that to your experience, your thoughts and your feelings to find out what you are communicating to yourself through your dreams.

About the fear of loss:

When you are chasing someone it can also indicate a hero or saviour-construct. Like a dream you create where you are a superhero chasing a villain. Know that all what is in your dreams - is your creation. So you have created the scenario in the dream to play out. Which would indicate a desire for being a hero or desiring to be seen in a similar way by others, as a saviour.

Self-honesty is the key to getting to know yourself through your dreams.
To be brutally honest about what you think and feel. Because else you will make excuses and justifications for why you for example desire to be seen as a great person.

An awesome online course is the desteni I process, where you peel away the layers of yourself to see who you really are, and what controls this existince. So that we can start to live in harmony with each other, creating a better world for all of us, starting by self-change.

maandag 14 maart 2011

This blog

Our dreams don't lie - they show us who we are or who we are able to be. It is a tool for us to look at what we currently accept within ourselves.

This blog will explain what all the dream symbols and events mean, and how you can learn to interpret them yourself. No Freud stuff, or hocus pocus, no assumptions or believes. The dreamer itself is the best one to find out what the dreams actually say about oneself. The understanding and explanation will help you to direct yourself in your life – which will also have an effect on the way you dream and what you dream about.

Forgetting something, not being able to run, being stuck in a room, being chased, flying, underwater breathing, dying, saving someone, fire etc… The dream world is as varied as our waking world.

Night fears or sleeping problems will also be handled within this blog.
If you have a request or question, feel free to contact me or leave a reply on one of the blog posts.